A couple of weeks ago, many people would’ve have entitled my day as “ One of those days”…where “…everything goes sideways”.
What if everything went sideways to help me find the hidden gifts when the machine “malfunctions”?
My normal Wednesday morning schedule, involves yoga therapy with a client in a town 15 min away. I’m late leaving, after a comically muddled early start.
Despite my keen awareness that I will arrive a few minutes late for session, and the worldly conditioning of the guilt ridden outcome of “being late”, I am calmly making my way to town. Years ago, I would have been fretting. Quiet anxiety fuelling an seemingly ever present worry of ‘getting it wrong’.
Gratefully, through yoga, meditation, coaching and personal healing I have found great peace underneath the blanket of worry that used to rest upon my life. Great comfort flows through my practice of pausing, breathing and surrendering into a vibe of acceptance.
Then, I see “the cherries” flashing behind me?! WHAT? I wasn’t speeding…truth!! er-hem…for those who read this and know I can have a heavy foot by times. Truth!!
Hmmm… I am really going to be late now. AND my mental body jumped out of its peaceful place trying to rattle the machine into the malfunction mode. I’m not listening.
I Breathe and soften my body!
Within seconds, I recall that I was told I have a had light out the day before. And yes, that is in fact why the officer was stopping me. Warning given, and on my way to my lovely client waiting for me - 10 min late.
Hidden Gift #1
My client gets to see that all is not ‘perfect’ in my world, and that things can “go sideways” and yet life can carry on with lightness and peace.; which is often a challenge for this who gravitate to fear and worry when order is disrupted. I have the opportunity to model self-responsibility, calmness and humour when things appear to “go awry”.
Later that day, I collect my daughter from school early for an orthodontist appointment in a nearby town. We are at the orthodontist office, when I get a call from our Elementary school. My son missed his bus. Not his morning bus? His after school bus ~ HUH?!
I Breathe and soften my body!
My daughter, the ortho staff, and I all have a chuckle. Then one of the staff members mentioned that this happened to her when she was a kid. She said, she was trying to get things from her locker and she didn’t make it to the bus in time. Her face then changed. More solemn. Her next words still tinged with childhood pain. She said, “only difference is that my mother shouted at me non stop!” ; ‘You’re note even upset?!”. I shared my view of accepting things as they are, and choosing how I want to respond, rather than reacting out of habit or pattern. Sharing, that I still felt the energy rise up in my body when I got the call but it dissipated quickly because I paid attention to it and knew I had influence over how the rest would roll out. And a word of compassion to the lovely staff member who’s heart still carries the old wound of disapproval, shame and guilt, all these years later. Hope resounding for her to be able to let that go & step into self-love.
Back to the school we go, pick up my son, have a laugh, problem solve a “how to not do that again” - yup - it was a locker scenario.
Hidden Gift #2
Sharing a different perspective for dealing with stressful, or unplanned events. Modelling a more loving way to approach inconvenient mistakes. Offering compassion to a stranger, a fellow human with childhood memories touched by pain.
Hidden Gift #3
Extra alone time, on the drive back to the other town, with my 13 year old daughter. Who is now more accustomed to disappear into bedroom-dom!
Hidden Gift #4
Receive my son’s apology from a place of understanding and move on easily with the day. Peace instead of drama. Calm assertion of self-responsibility. Big picture perspective and problem solving.
An hour or so later, my son and I are back in the car, this time to take him back to town for gymnastics class. Third trip to town that day!
I drop him at the centre. Off to run some errands. Then, I realize……I forgot my cell phone! My daughter, albeit is 13yrs old, is now on her own and thinks I have my phone for contact when/if needed in case of an emergency.
I Breathe and soften my body!
Hmmmmm…pay phones are a thing of the past!
I end up asking to borrow a phone to call and let her know - she doesn’t pick up, because she been taught to not pick up if she doesn’t know the name/number. LOL.
I don’t wear a watch, ever. I ask stranger number 2 for the time and shared my situation. Another laugh and help at hand.
Hidden Gift #5
Asking for help from a stranger. Connection with another human being who gets the gift of helping someone out. It feels great to offer gestures of kindness and help. Even more so to those we have no known, or perceived, connection to ~ except that beautiful connection of shared humanity.
Hidden Gift #6
CELL PHONE FREE TIME! No further explanation needed.
Hidden Gift #7
Trust. Choosing to keep my mind in the reality of now and that my daughter is capable and confident to be on her own for 1.5hr. She is resourceful and would contact another family member, if she couldn’t reach me. All is fine, until it isn’t, and so far so good!
Back home again for an hour, then off to parent teacher meetings & I’m on time. Whoot!But…. meetings are running 30 min behind!
Another surge of energy enlivens me.
I Breathe and soften my body.
Where’ the gift?
Hidden Gift #8
Time spent sitting still. Quiet. Gorgeous pause within a momentum filled day.
The last gift, a wonderful impromptu chat with a fellow parent I rarely see. Which wouldn’t have happened if the meetings had been “on time”.
There are so many more intense and harrowing life events that could be occurring, and are for many across the globe. Stepping back, all of these minute dramas are simply a breath of wind with a bit of dust in it ~ not a tornado!
And yet, all is relative, and for many caught up in the machination of life these type of daily events wreak havoc on their peace and enjoyment of each day.
So, if you relate in even the smallest of ways, I invite you to consider…..
Are you stopping to Breathe & Soften your body, when things don’t go as planned?
Are you letting the machine of the mind kick auto-pilot into high gear & “over”react?
Or are you pausing to choose how you want to respond?
Who are you trying to please, or prove something to?
Who are you mimicking? Is there another way possible, for YOU?
Have you stopped to look for the gift?
Where are the hidden gifts in your everyday life?
Many treasures are waiting to be found by you!
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